TTU defines consent as mutually understandable words or actions, actively communicated both knowingly and voluntarily, that clearly convey permission for a specific activity.
Consent can be revoked at any time verbally or nonverbally by clearly communicating to the other partner.
For more information, visit our sexual health and consent page.
Boundaries & expectations:
- It's each person's responsibility to communicate their needs, feelings, and intentions.
- Choose dating apps focusing on the connection you want to make.
- Determine your boundaries and automatic left swipes.
- Meet first at a neutral, public location that you're comfortable with.
- Share information with a trusted friend.
- Have an exit strategy and a plan to get home safely.
Things to look for in a potential match:
- Alignment of beliefs and values
- Clear and honest communication
- Respectful interactions
- Healthy conflict resolution
¼ women and 1/7 men 18+ have been the victim of severe physical violence by an intimate partner. 39% of LGBTQIA men and over half of LGBTQIA women experience abuse from their partners.
- Dating violence: Any type of abuse that occurs between two people identified as being in a dating relationship.
- Domestic violence: Abuse occurring between two cohabitating people, regardless of a dating dynamic.
- Stalking: Behavior, which includes but is not limited to, knowingly and repeatedly engaging in conduct that they know/reasonably should know the other person will regard as unwelcome and would cause a reasonable person to be fearful or suffer substantial emotional distress. This can be in-person or online.
Abuse in relationships can be physical, emotional, verbal, sexual, financial, or digital. For a Student Code of Conduct Sexual Misconduct Definitions from Title IX see Section D: Sexual Misconduct Procedures for Students.
57% of college students report it's difficult to identify dating abuse.
|Healthy Relationships||Unhealthy Relationships|
|Taking responsibility||Deflecting responsibility|
The following are examples of types of abuse college students may face.
Threatening physical harm
Threatening to complete suicide if relationship ends
Threatening to destroy/hurt things/people
Making partner afraid
Threatening to tell partner's secrets to friends or family
Academic Abuse & Humiliation
Transferring to a partner's class to monitor them
Controlling their class attendance
Undermining academic status, grades, or intelligence
Looking at grades/assignments without permission
Deliberately starting fights the night before an exam to affect academic success
Preventing partner form applying to jobs/internships
Manipulation & Limiting Independence
Controlling where and with whom partner can spend time
Pressuring partner to choose between them and their friends
Preventing partner from going to class or work
Creating a wedge between partner and friends
Forcing their partner to live with them
Using anger or the silent treatment as punishment
Using financial power as blackmail
Requiring permission for activities or spending money
Determining what a partner can do and/or wear
Pressuring partner to drinking more than they would like
Treating partner like a child
Deliberately causing pregnancy
Using drugs or alcohol to acquire sex
Making comparisons to past partners
Flirting with others to make partner feel inadequate
Rape or sexual violence
Pressuring or coercing partner to engage in sexual activity
Controlling choices about abortion, birth control, or STI screening
Hitting, punching, choking, slapping, kicking, pushing, pulling hair, biting, tripping, or grabbing partner without expressed consent
Punching doors or walls
Destroying valuables or sentimental items
Hurting their pets
Possessiveness & Harassment
Following partner or showing up uninvited to location
Constantly calling or texting when apart
Jealousy or framing jealousy as a sign of love
Monitoring or hacking phone
If you or a friend are in an abusive relationship or wondering if you are, report the incident to receive support and create an action plan.
58% of college students say they don't know how to help someone who is a victim of dating abuse.
Tips for supporting a survivor:
- Be empathetic and nonjudgmental.
- Actively listen.
- Validate their feelings and experience.
- Ask how you can support them.
- Respect their decisions and needs.
- Refer survivor to resources and encourage them to get help.
- Check in and provide ongoing support.
|TTU Title IX||Provides supportive measures and resources, academic support, housing assistance, medical and counseling services, parking assistance, and a safety plan after an incident occurs.|
|Student Counseling Center||Licensed mental health care providers offer individual, couple, and group counseling, or students can independently care for themselves at the MindSpa.|
|Family Therapy Clinic||Provides affordable therapy to individuals, couples, and families. Offers caring and confidential therapeutic services to address a wide range of issues.|
|STI Testing Locations||List of STI testing centers on campus and in Lubbock with all the information you need to know before you go.|
|Voice of Hope Rape Crisis Center||Offers a 24-hour crisis hotline, counseling services, and assistance for sexual assault victims and non-offending family members and friends affected by the trauma of sexual assault/sex trafficking. Crisis Hotline: 806-763-RAPE.|
|Women's Protective Services||Offers a 24-hour crisis hotline, shelter, individual and group therapy, support groups, and assistance and advocacy for women, men, and children who have experienced domestic violence.|
|UMC Emergency Room||Confidential emergency health care close to campus. Offers forensic (SANE) exams within 96 hours of an assault.|
|Covenant Emergency Room||Confidential emergency health care close to campus. Offers forensic (SANE) exams within 96 hours of assault.|
|National Domestic Violence Hotline||Text START to 88788 or call 1-800-799-SAFE to receive essential tools and support to help survivors of domestic abuse.|
|National Sexual Assault Hotline||24/7/365 hotline that serves people affected by sexual violence. Call 800-656-4673 to be connected to a trained staff from a sexual assault service provider in your area.|
|One Love Foundation||Empowers students with tools and resources to see the signs of healthy and unhealthy relationships.|
|Love is Respect||Offers support, information, and advocacy to young people in need, and concerned friends and family who have questions to prevent or end abusive relationships.|
|Stalking Resource Center||Provides crisis intervention, information, and support to individuals who experience stalking.|
|The Recovery Village||Provides an educational guide on the link between domestic violence and substance abuse, and how to recognize the signs and get help.|