What exactly is stress? What does a state of stress look like? What stressors impact us? We could ask ten people these questions and receive ten different answers: this is a very subjective phenomenon.
What we do know is stimulation (the stressor) can be a catalyst for experiencing a pleasant state of stress, eustress, or an unpleasant one, distress. To best manage your own stress takes self-awareness and recognition of what degree of stimulation and what source of stimulation can send you from a pleasant state of being to an unpleasant one. Our stress curve below can help us better understand this.
As stimulation increases (x-axis), so does our performance level (y-axis), but only to a certain point (peak performance). As stimulation increases, past our peak performance (top of the bell curve), we are likely to see a decrease in performance and potentially to the point of burning out. To improve our over-all well being we must being to increase self-awareness as it relates to our...
- Warning Signs
- Growth vs Fixed
- Practice Empathy
- Prioritize Self-Care
Warning Signs of Distress
How does your mind, body, emotions, behavior, and attitude speak to you? How do they try to let you know its time to slow down and really prioritize self-care?
Have you experienced any of these warnings signs lately? Can you think of others? Do you experience a lot of anxiety? Check out this information on anxiety.
Check Your Mindset
Unpack the Emotional Experience
Brené Brown defines empathy for us and in her book Dare to Lead notes this means NOT doing any of the following to ourselves or others. These are examples of shaming behavior.
- Power Over
- Self-worth tied to productivity
How can you slowly begin to replace shaming behaviors with empathy?"Empathy is the antidote to shame." Brené Brown
Recharge with Self-Care
What activities bring you peace? Who supports you? Where can you find calmness? Intentionally deciding who to go to, what to do, where to be, and when to prioritize self-care can drastically improve our health. How many self-care options do you have in your tool box?
We all benefit when each of us is able to be our brightest self!
Healthy Coping is...
- A growth mindset over a fixed one.
- Having many self-care tools in your toolbox.
- Dependency on only one or two coping mechanisms to feel better, calm down, etc. likely leads to abuse of this coping mechanism like substance abuse.
- Developing a healthy relationship with your emotions: emotions are not the enemy.
- Accepting states of discomfort and remembering you will get through it.
- Being positively realistic and setting realistic goals for yourself.
- Creating a daily practice of self-love mantras.
- Yes, I can do this!
- I am powerful and creative.
- I believe in myself and my greatness.
- My worth is not determined by the thoughts/actions of others.
- I am enough just as I am.